I’m not a supporter of writing articles that include quick solutions and tips that, if applied automatically, will lead you to solutions and better relationships, and to be honest, I’m not sure if I even believe that something like that is possible. Therefore, I will emphasize every time that practicing mindfulness includes patience, motivation, and continuous work on yourself. In this article you can find some of the recommendations, ideas to improve your relationships and communication with others. I hope that these ideas will motivate you to go deeper into the story of mindfulness and the development of new, different, and more conscious relationships with yourself and others.
What is mindful communication?
Mindful communication includes listening, talking, and nonverbal communication with attention, awareness, kindness, and compassion. When we talk about this kind of communication, and how we can talk to someone mindfully, the first step is to listen to them.
How do we develop mindful listening skills?
Think before you say something – when someone asks you a question, you don’t have to answer right away, give yourself time to think – sometimes people will take it as a compliment because you give importance to their question and think about your answer.
Be authentic and honest – say what you think, it does not mean that it must be communicated aggressively and judgmentally, you can be honest and at the same time gentle, pleasant, and compassionate.
Do not pretend to be something you are not or hide your opinion (a long process of taking a passive role in communication can have serious consequences for your mental health and interpersonal relationships).
“Empty your head” – in conscious communication it is important not to be guided by judgments, beliefs that we may have acquired about the person – in this way we avoid really listening and getting to know the person we are talking to.
Don’t assume – don’t hesitate to ask something because something is “implied” or you are uncomfortable asking, if there are any ambiguities or you are not sure that you understand the person well, be open to asking for additional clarifications.
Listen to yourself during the conversation – How am I currently during this conversation? Do my feelings, thoughts, sensations in my body affect my communication with this person? Notice what is happening inside you, and then gently turn your attention back to the person and their story.