{"id":4062,"date":"2021-09-21T11:18:21","date_gmt":"2021-09-21T09:18:21","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/bujooeducation.com\/academy\/kako-da-osnazis-sebe-ukoliko-si-empaticna\/"},"modified":"2023-06-17T12:47:40","modified_gmt":"2023-06-17T10:47:40","slug":"how-to-empower-yourself-if-you-are-empathetic","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/bujooeducation.com\/academy\/how-to-empower-yourself-if-you-are-empathetic\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Empower Yourself If You Are Empathetic?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
The ability to understand or feel the state of another person from their perspective, the ability to put ourselves in someone else’s shoes, is empathy. Many of us confuse empathy with rescuing, enduring, and caring endlessly for others. This often stems from the role we had during upbringing or because parents didn’t know how to validate your feelings (and therefore their own). This way, you continuously prioritize others, thinking that your feelings and needs are not equally important.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
What you need is the development of self-awareness – about your feelings, thoughts, bodily sensations. About who you are and where your boundaries lie in relationships.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Empathy without boundaries is destruction, and I write more about it in the article: Empathy Without Boundaries Is Destruction<\/a>. Because it is not sustainable, it leads to emotional exhaustion and unhealthy relationships.<\/p>\n\n\n\n It doesn’t require you to betray yourself for the benefit of others.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n It doesn’t ask you to be unaware of where your boundaries are and how you are while being an empathetic listener.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Empathy requires self-awareness and awareness of your inner world.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n In order to be genuinely empathetic, it is necessary to take care of yourself while being there for others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n I have written more about empathic fatigue in the article From Empathy to Empathic Fatigue<\/a> and how to protect ourselves from “burnout” in the role of a helper.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Here are a few guidelines that can help you:<\/p>\n\n\n\n Photo by Ben White<\/a> on Unsplash<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" The ability to understand or feel the state of another person from their perspective, the ability to put ourselves in someone else’s shoes, is empathy.…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":3353,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[33],"tags":[411,427,124,244,257],"acf":{"post_hide_title":false,"post_hide_image":false,"post_alternative_title":"","post_header_video":"","post_conclusion":"","post_embed_audio":false},"aioseo_notices":[],"featured_image_urls":{"full":["https:\/\/bujooeducation.com\/academy\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/ben-white-vtCBruWoNqo-unsplash-1-scaled-1.jpg",2560,1709,false],"thumbnail":["https:\/\/bujooeducation.com\/academy\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/ben-white-vtCBruWoNqo-unsplash-1-scaled-1-150x150.jpg",150,150,true],"medium":["https:\/\/bujooeducation.com\/academy\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/ben-white-vtCBruWoNqo-unsplash-1-scaled-1-300x200.jpg",300,200,true],"medium_large":["https:\/\/bujooeducation.com\/academy\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/ben-white-vtCBruWoNqo-unsplash-1-scaled-1-768x513.jpg",640,428,true],"large":["https:\/\/bujooeducation.com\/academy\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/ben-white-vtCBruWoNqo-unsplash-1-scaled-1-1024x684.jpg",640,428,true],"1536x1536":["https:\/\/bujooeducation.com\/academy\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/ben-white-vtCBruWoNqo-unsplash-1-scaled-1-1536x1025.jpg",1536,1025,true],"2048x2048":["https:\/\/bujooeducation.com\/academy\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/ben-white-vtCBruWoNqo-unsplash-1-scaled-1-2048x1367.jpg",2048,1367,true],"post-thumbnail":["https:\/\/bujooeducation.com\/academy\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/ben-white-vtCBruWoNqo-unsplash-1-scaled-1-624x417.jpg",624,417,true],"gamipress-points":["https:\/\/bujooeducation.com\/academy\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/ben-white-vtCBruWoNqo-unsplash-1-scaled-1-50x33.jpg",50,33,true],"gamipress-achievement":["https:\/\/bujooeducation.com\/academy\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/ben-white-vtCBruWoNqo-unsplash-1-scaled-1-100x67.jpg",100,67,true],"gamipress-rank":["https:\/\/bujooeducation.com\/academy\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/ben-white-vtCBruWoNqo-unsplash-1-scaled-1-100x67.jpg",100,67,true],"woocommerce_thumbnail":["https:\/\/bujooeducation.com\/academy\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/ben-white-vtCBruWoNqo-unsplash-1-scaled-1-300x300.jpg",300,300,true],"woocommerce_single":["https:\/\/bujooeducation.com\/academy\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/ben-white-vtCBruWoNqo-unsplash-1-scaled-1-600x401.jpg",600,401,true],"woocommerce_gallery_thumbnail":["https:\/\/bujooeducation.com\/academy\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/ben-white-vtCBruWoNqo-unsplash-1-scaled-1-100x100.jpg",100,100,true]},"post_excerpt_stackable":" The ability to understand or feel the state of another person from their perspective, the ability to put ourselves in someone else’s shoes, is empathy. Many of us confuse empathy with rescuing, enduring, and caring endlessly for others. This often stems from the role we had during upbringing or because parents didn’t know how to validate your feelings (and therefore their own). This way, you continuously prioritize others, thinking that your feelings and needs are not equally important. What you need is the development of self-awareness – about your feelings, thoughts, bodily sensations. About who you are and where your…<\/p>\n","category_list":"Personal Growth & Discovery<\/a>","author_info":{"name":"Vesna Lakovi\u0107","url":"https:\/\/bujooeducation.com\/academy\/author\/vesna\/"},"comments_num":"0 comments","blocks":[{"blockName":"core\/paragraph","attrs":[],"innerBlocks":[],"innerHTML":"\n The ability to understand or feel the state of another person from their perspective, the ability to put ourselves in someone else's shoes, is empathy. Many of us confuse empathy with rescuing, enduring, and caring endlessly for others. This often stems from the role we had during upbringing or because parents didn't know how to validate your feelings (and therefore their own). This way, you continuously prioritize others, thinking that your feelings and needs are not equally important.<\/p>\n","innerContent":["\n The ability to understand or feel the state of another person from their perspective, the ability to put ourselves in someone else's shoes, is empathy. Many of us confuse empathy with rescuing, enduring, and caring endlessly for others. This often stems from the role we had during upbringing or because parents didn't know how to validate your feelings (and therefore their own). 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