{"id":720,"date":"2021-08-14T10:49:32","date_gmt":"2021-08-14T08:49:32","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/bujooeducation.com\/academy\/self-criticism-what-helps-me-when-dealing-with-my-inner-critic\/"},"modified":"2023-04-14T13:34:52","modified_gmt":"2023-04-14T11:34:52","slug":"self-criticism-what-helps-me-when-dealing-with-my-inner-critic","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/bujooeducation.com\/academy\/self-criticism-what-helps-me-when-dealing-with-my-inner-critic\/","title":{"rendered":"Self-criticism – what helps me when dealing with my inner critic"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

The topic of self-criticism is something I have personally struggled with almost all my life. My criteria in dealing with others have never been as strict, judgmental as it was towards myself. Often I was not even aware of this. Nothing has ever been good enough and I had to always achieve more.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

An encounter with Mindfulness and the Mindful self-compassion program helped me, step by step, become aware of all those moments when my inner critic would take control of my life and how it reflected on my mental health and relationships with others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What helps me on a daily basis in my relationship with an inner critic?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Mindfulness<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

People often think that Mindfulness is just meditation and that\u2019s it. Of course, by training your attention with the help of meditation, it is easier for you to notice when you wander off and when you are overwhelmed with thoughts and feelings, and so you know better how to redirect your attention. For me personally, from Mindfulness practice, the most important are 9 values – Mindfulness attitudes that we nurture in our practice. One of these attitudes is non-judgment and letting go.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I often find myself in a whirlwind of negative thoughts about how I did something or how I should have done something, which of course is immediately followed by unpleasant feelings. Mindfulness helped me to let go of those thoughts and negative thoughts much more easily\u2026 to catch myself in that moment of \u201cjudgment\u201d and simply practice that moment: \u201ccome on now don\u2019t judge whether something is good or bad\u2026 accept it the way it is, accept and release\u2026 \u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Meeting my inner critic<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Sometimes I look at that inner critic as one person in me who has different faces. Depending on the type of criticism involved, that inner critic may be a cynical, cold, and sarcastic intellectual to whom my skills and knowledge are never good enough, and sometimes he may be a neurotic and overly caring woman who passively-aggressively criticizes all my decisions. and behaviors.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Now I can already imagine the moments and situations when some face of an internal critic will appear and sometimes I enter into a dialogue with him or her. By answering these questions, I often get a different perspective on my own self-criticism and greater understanding and even empathy towards the inner critic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here are some of the questions I ask myself:<\/h2>\n\n\n\n